Sheila Heti’s book How a Person Should Be? is one of these rare gems that every woman should read. … Reading Heti’s book is like watching someone dissect themselves in the mirror with a dull scalpel. The pain she causes herself to expose her insides and understand how they function is at the same time totally unnecessary and absolutely essential. In order for Heti to understand how to love, she has to destroy everything, to see if it even matters. It is through her destruction that creation is manifested.